在繁忙的世界中尋找家庭共處的珍貴時刻
Finding Quality Time with Our Families in a Fast-Paced World

  • 郭曉芝
  • 親子關係
  • 親子時間
  • 復活節假期
  • 復活節
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隨著復活節的幾天公眾假期臨近,現在正是討論「珍貴時刻」這個熱門詞彙的完美時機。如果你還沒聽說過它,它是五種愛的語言之一,被定義為與某人一起專注、不間斷地度過的時間,雙方都全神貫注並在場。

在當今快節奏的世界中,與家人共度高品質的時間可能是一個挑戰。通常,父母只有晚上一小段時間可以與孩子相處,因為要趕著洗澡、吃晚餐、做功課和睡前準備。這就是為什麼最近羅里·貝爾(Rory Bell)的育兒研討會對我產生共鳴。貝爾強調了一個觀點,沒有數量時間就不可能有高品質的時間。換句話說,需要大量的數量時間才能創造與孩子們的難忘時刻。

隨著我們有幾天假期,這是一個很好的時機提醒自己作為父母,高品質的時間無法安排。它關乎我們完全投入和參與與愛人們的當下。一起度過時間,無論是共進一餐、玩遊戲,還是簡單地交談,都能使我們與親人建立起連結並建立關係。

此外,數量時間還提供了有意義的對話和脆弱時刻的機會。在一個我們常常只看到人們生活中的 "社交媒體" 那一面並隱藏真實情感的世界中,與家人共度時間讓我們能夠做自己。

在我們慶祝復活節時,讓我們關掉工作思緒,專注於與愛人們共度時光。正如一句諺語所說: 「你種什麼,就會收穫什麼。」 如果我們現在不為孩子們留出時間,他們長大後又怎麼能指望他們為我們留出時間呢?讓我們樹立一個先例,不要在家庭聚餐時玩手機。祝你的復活節假期充滿數量時間和有意義的時刻!

As we approach the Easter holiday with a few days of public holiday, it is a perfect time to talk about the buzz word “quality time”. If you have not heard of it, it is one of the five love languages, defined as focused, uninterrupted time spent with someone, where both parties are engaged and present.

In today's fast-paced world, finding quality time with our families can be a challenge. Often, parents only have a short window of time in the evenings to spend with their children due to the rush of showering, dinner, homework and bedtime routines. That is why the recent parenting seminar by Rory Bell, author of "Mustard Seeds," resonated with me. Bell emphasized the idea that you cannot have quality time without quantity time. In other words, it takes a large amount of quantity time to create those golden nuggets of memorable moments with our children.

As we have a few days off, it is a great time to remind ourselves as parents that quality time cannot be scheduled in. It is about being fully present and engaged in the moment with our loved ones. Spending time together, whether it's sharing a meal, playing games, or simply having a conversation, allows us to connect and build relationships with our loved ones.

Moreover, quantity time also provides opportunities for meaningful conversations and moments of vulnerability. In a world where we often only see the “social media” side of people’s lives and hide our true emotions, spending time with our families allows us to just be ourselves.

As we celebrate Easter, let us turn our working minds off and focus on spending time with our loved ones. As the saying goes, "You reap what you sow." If we do not make time for our children now, how can we expect them to make time for us when they grow older? Let’s set a precedent and not be on our phones during family meals. May your Easter holiday be filled with quantity time and meaningful moments!

郭曉芝(Kimberly) - 2024年3月26日