When Kids Teach Parents: The Power of Emotional Intelligence

  • 社交情緒學習
  • 情商
  • 人際關係
  • 郭曉芝
  • SEL
2 星期前










As an early childhood educator, I'm incredibly passionate about social-emotional learning (SEL). SEL involves cultivating skills like self-awareness and healthy relationships in children. A recent experience at home reminded me just how impactful fostering these abilities can be.

One evening, my husband and I came up short on dinner. Feeling hungry after a workout, I frowned - Alex, my three-year-old son, immediately took notice. He asked if I was feeling "sad." I nodded. He asked me, "why?" Before I could answer, Alex jumped to my defense, stating "Stop Daddy, you're making Mom feel sad,". Alex not only identified my emotion of sadness but also understood something has hurt me and then recognized its source. As his educator, I swelled with pride seeing his emotional intelligence. As his mother, I was touched by his protectiveness over me.  It was a reminder of the importance of starting early with SEL and the impact it can have on a child's well-being.

Alex is now learning the PATHS programme for SEL at my school, Mighty Oaks International Nursery and Kindergarten. He also attends the afterschool programme at JEMS, our partner for character education curriculum. Combined with focused family efforts, these initiatives have benefited his emotional intelligence. As both a mother and educator passionately committed to children's well-being, I cannot stress enough the long-lasting benefits of social-emotional learning. Kids who develop these skills tend to do better academically, socially and are happier overall. They also carry these abilities into adulthood to build strong relationships and meet life's challenges with greater resilience.

Parents play a pivotal role in helping children develop these skills. By acknowledging emotions and role modeling healthy expression, parents set the stage for social-emotional growth. Here are some tips for nurturing SEL skills at different early childhood stages:

SEL Tips for Different Ages:

0-1: Focus on bonding through smiles, songs and mirroring emotions during care routines.

1-3: Name feelings using pictures and describe your own. Read books showing a range.

3-5: Role play scenarios to practice empathy, sharing, taking turns. Guide conflict resolution calmly.

Another thing to note - research shows there are over 70 distinct emotions, not just happy, sad, and angry. By prioritizing SEL, we equip children with emotional intelligence and lay the groundwork for their overall well-being. Let us genuinely connect with our children, listen to their feelings, and guide them in navigating emotions healthily. Emotional intelligence will undoubtedly shape their future.

郭曉芝(Kimberly) - 2024年4月30日